Top Settling in Tips
Your child’s first day at nursery is a big milestone, and as a parent, you want to make sure they feel comfortable and ready. With the right preparation and support, you can help ease any anxieties and ensure they start this new chapter with confidence. To provide you with the best advice, we consulted a group of nursery leaders from across our settings. Here are their answers to some of the most common questions we hear from families.
I’m breastfeeding, what advice would you give me for settling in my child?
Introducing bottles with expressed breast milk before your child starts nursery can be really helpful. It helps them adjust to feeding routines at nursery, ensuring they’re comfortable even when you’re not there. Start this process gradually at home so it’s less overwhelming when the big day comes.
Also, we recommend beginning settling-in sessions up to three months before your child starts. These sessions, which we offer at no extra cost, are a great way to prepare both you and your little one for the new routine and environment.
Michele Falconer, Early Years Specialist
What’s your best settling-in tip for babies?
Young babies need sensory experiences especially when a little anxious or upset. A useful tip is as a parent you could place a muslin in bed with you so that it has familiar smells of you as parents on it, when your baby becomes a little anxious and is being soothed their key person can use it over their shoulder and the smell of Mum will be familiar and help soothe the baby. One night would be all it takes to add familiar smells to the muslin.
Michele Falconer, Early Years Specialist
Why should I do settling-in sessions?
When a child sees their parent comfortable in the nursery environment, it builds that crucial first step of trust. We encourage parents to be part of the settling process, tailoring the experience to what works best for their child.
Our “Nice to Meet You” sessions are designed to help your child feel at home. During these sessions, you and your child will spend time with the room leader and other practitioners, discussing your child’s interests, daily routines, and any specific needs. This personalised approach ensures your child feels secure and familiar with their new surroundings before their official start date.
Chloe Moses, Nursery Manager at Jigsaw Pinner Nursery School
When should I start settling-in sessions?
The timing of settling-in sessions can vary depending on the child, but we generally recommend starting about two months before their official start date (or up to 3 months for breastfed babies). We gradually increase the length of these sessions over a few weeks, allowing your child to adjust at their own pace. This flexible approach helps them feel safe and secure in their new environment.
Jeanine Hood, Deputy Manager, Maldon Day Nursery
What is a key person, and why are they important?
A key person is a named member of our team who is assigned to your child, helping them feel safe, cared for, and understood during their time with us. This consistent presence helps your child build trust and feel supported, and the key person also works closely with you, providing regular updates and being your main point of contact for any concerns.
Fae Coleman, Nursery Manager at Carshalton Day Nursery
Will I be updated about my child’s day?
Absolutely. We know how important it is to keep parents in the loop, so we use our Eylog app to provide live updates on your child’s day, including photos, meals, and activities. Clear communication is key to easing any concerns you might have.
Sophie Killick, Nursery Manager
Can I talk to a member of staff at drop-offs or pick-ups?
Yes, we have an open-door policy. Whether you want to check in during the day or need a chat at pick-up, we’re always here to support you. Many first-time parents find it really helpful to discuss milestones like weaning or toilet training with our early years specialists.
Sophie Killick, Nursery Manager
What if my child is upset?
It’s completely normal for children to have big feelings, especially when starting nursery. We focus on validating those feelings and providing the comfort they need. Our team is dedicated to offering “professional love,” whether through extra cuddles, gentle encouragement, or engaging your child in their favourite activities. We ensure your child feels loved and valued every step of the way.
Bailey, Level 3 Nursery Practitioner, Kloisters Kindergarten
Top Settling in Tips for Parents at Home
While our team is dedicated to supporting your child’s transition at nursery, there are also steps you can take at home to ease the process.
Talk About Nursery in Positive Terms
Begin discussing nursery with your child a few weeks before their start date. Talk about the new friends they’ll make, the fun activities they’ll do, and the kind staff who will look after them. This helps to create a sense of excitement and anticipation.
Visit the Nursery Together
Where possible, attend open days or take an extra tour of the nursery with your child. Familiarising them with the environment and the faces of their key person and other staff members will make the first day less daunting.
Establish a Nursery Routine
Help your child get used to the idea of nursery by establishing a morning routine that mimics a typical nursery day. This might include having breakfast together, packing their bag, and discussing what they might do at nursery that day.
If you live close by, go for a stroll or drive to get used to the route. Make it fun, pin point land marks or familiar places so your child gets used to the journey.
Bring a Comforter
If your child has a favourite toy or blanket, consider bringing it along to nursery. While we generally discourage bringing toys from home, a comforter can provide a sense of security during those first few weeks. Once your child is settled, we’ll safely store it away.
Trust the Process
It’s natural to feel anxious about leaving your child at nursery, and whilst we do this every day, we know this may be your first time. Whilst it can be a big step, we encourage you to remain positive and calm. Children are like emotional sponges and can will pick up on your emotions, and if you appear calm and confident, they’re more likely to feel the same. We recommend the “drop and go” approach. Say goodbye once and then leave, allowing your child to start their day with confidence.
Encourage Independence
Where possible, let your child walk into the nursery rather than carrying them. This small act helps them feel more in control and independent, making the transition smoother.
Engage in Nursery-Related Activities at Home
Use our Facebook page to show your child photos of the nursery, staff, and activities. You can also incorporate similar activities at home, such as reading books or playing with toys they’ll find at nursery, to create a sense of familiarity.
We’re Here Every Step of the Way
At our nurseries, we understand the emotions involved in starting nursery, and we’re here to support both you and your child every step of the way. Our team is committed to making this transition as smooth and enjoyable as possible, ensuring your child feels safe, secure, and excited about their nursery experience.
If you have any questions or need further guidance, don’t hesitate to reach out to your child’s key person or nursery manager. We’re here to help!